July 6th

Recently I became exposed to an element of my dancing passion I had not critically explored.

Over the past four weeks my siblings and two close friends have been taking a six week course in the instruction of West Coast Swing. The style is defined as Cool, Smooth and Sexy. The sexy element of this style is something each individual interprets. Personally, I leave this component out of my movements on the floor.

But I am writing a head of myself. There are a few other details you should know before getting to the “sexy” part.

Our dance class starts at 7:45pm and ends at 8:30pm. Afterwards the dance studio opens the floor to the general public.

This open dance floor time is beneficial for practicing the moves just learned and often other more experienced dancers ask new dancers to follow their lead. This provides excellent learning opportunities for the dancers with little experience.

One particular evening I observed how some dancers chose to incorporate sexually seductive moves into their dance moves while others did not. Discussing this topic with another dancer, who enjoyed the sexual friction, he expressed his concept that dancing is like acting. He stated that he had never danced before and all his move where acted. Following the lead of this dancer across the floor made me realize the deceit in his statement.  No man could fake such experienced leadership in the draw and press of balance he displayed in his skill. I responded to has statement  by expressing how I should make my movements and actions honest.

Personal, moral values lead me to feel it is wrong to incorporate such sexually intimate movements with multiple partners.

But too much reflection on this concept has lead many people to categorize the expression of dance as wrong. Many families avoid dance all together. 

The next day, while discussing my thoughts of dance style with my sister, we began to hold a greater respect for the concept this gentleman had expressed about dancing.

We realized dancers are like actors.

Compare this: Movie sex scenes to Seductive dance moves.

Dancers create scenes on the dance floor. Actors make moves on the film screen.

Many movies have been produced. Many with R rated sex scenes, and many without. Those characters dancing across the film screen are actresses and actors. Those actors and actresses are people who make the choice to perform “moves.” Some movie scripts lead the actor to follow the moves of a sex scene.  The actors and actresses make the choice to include “moves” in their style. Dancers choose what script-steps they wish to follow.

Because of moral values and beliefs I would not act out scenes of intimacy with any man except the one God has chosen as my life long partner. Neither on the dance floor nor on the movie screen.